The way private messages work on Philomena makes them a nightmare to moderate and a very easy vector for abuse. For the sake of everyone's sanity we've opted to disallow them except for staff to communicate with users.
If there's a compelling argument for it, we may consider adding them back, but as it stands there are plenty of other ways to get in touch with other users.
I need to get to the mods so I can ask a very important question and don’t have discord isn’t communication with the mods and admins important I’ll just do it here is my profile picture allowed